Our Courtship

01.06.2021

.While filming my documentary Unstoppable, Aaron Lieber, our friend and the film’s director, captured some sweet moments of Adam and I sharing Our Love Story. Today I want to share some more of that conversation related to our courtship.

What is “courtship” you may be wondering?

It is kind of an old school term, but I really like the meaning and practice of it. Basically, it

is dating with intentionality, even being geared toward marriage, instead of dating casually

Courting vs dating can save you a lot of pain in the long run. I look at it as an

approach that protects you physically and emotionally. But it is not a popular, well

known, or celebrated approach today. I challenge any of you reading this who are in

those years of courtship to really think about what it is that you want in a relationship,

about the boundaries and intentions you wish to have. I challenge you to be brave,

honest and to protective yourself… You will not regret it!

I knew I didn’t want to date a lot of guys, so when I did find someone I wanted to get to

know more (Adam!) I wanted it to be an intentional, thoughtful and careful relationship.

Thankfully, Adam felt the same way, so we spent our time developing a solid friendship,

truly getting to know each other (lots of talking), and having FUN (hiking, surfing,

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Unstoppable director, Aaron, thought our approach was pretty unique and special, and asked us to share more about it…

Adam: Because of our shared faith, I saw Bethany as a daughter of Christ and so when

we were dating I was respecting her as that, and respecting our boundaries, and respecting that God has called us to be pure and not dabble around in sexuality before marriage. So, through that choice we were really respectful towards each other and created those boundaries early. That made our marriage and matrimony that much

more special having saved that for that time.

Me: I think there’s something so special about the way Christ has called us to take getting to know each other seriously. I feel like that physical side of relationships can distract you from actually getting to know each other and so I felt like we really had a unique way of getting to know each other and were able to build a more a solid

friendship first.

Everyone’s approach to dating and relationships and boundaries is different, and our

shared faith and values played a big part in shaping our approach to our courtship. I

wanted to share this piece of our story with you today to give you an example that I feel

is largely missing from media and pop culture. As I talked about in a recent post YOU

Create Your Environment, we have the power to create our own positive and life-giving environments, and that definitely includes your dating environment. The great news is

that every relationship, and even every new day within an existing relationship, is a

chance to start fresh in creating the healthy and uplifting environment you deserve.

And if you find that special one to say yes to… keep up the intention, honesty and

protection around that relationship for the years to come!

Be Unstoppable by creating, protecting, and owning your relational environments!

Wishing you all lots of LOVE!